#77 How to Tell Your Partner What You're Really Into... (Even If It Feels Super Scary)

Sharing your sexual fantasies with a partner can feel incredibly vulnerable... maybe even terrifying! In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives deep into why it’s so hard to open up about our desires and offers practical, no-pressure strategies to help you navigate these conversations with confidence and curiosity. Whether you're hoping to act on your fantasies or simply share them for deeper intimacy, this episode will equip you with the tools to hopefully make it a positive experience!

Discussion Prompts:

• What feelings do I want to experience through my fantasies?
• How can I support my partner’s desires even if I don’t share them?

Resources Mentioned:

• Previous Episode: #76: Are My Fantasies Normal? (Recommended as a precursor to today's episode)
• Precious Episode: #74: My Secret "Cock Worship" Fantasy: How Fantasies Unlock Better Sex

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Transcript

Harley (00:15)
Hey, hey friends, it is Harley Rabbit here. Welcome back to another episode of Turns Out I'm Into It, show all about helping you discover your kinky self and live your best sex life.

Last time on the podcast, we had a chat about fantasies and we went through a amazing study about how common different sexual fantasies actually are. and I had a lot of people reach out to me about that episode saying it really helped them and made them feel like they're not so weird and it's okay to be into the things that they're into. So that is always just.

So positive when I get that kind of feedback from you guys. Honestly, that is exactly what this show is for. We're, we're de-shaming our sexuality and so that we can explore it and enjoy it. Right.

Cause you never know these fantasies that you might be afraid of or really embarrassed about. If you actually get to embrace them, like a whole bunch of pleasure and exciting stuff that you can explore there. That's just waiting for you, but we have to get through that shame barrier first.

So following up from that episode, thought it would be really good to talk about once we've accepted these things or some of these things.

and allowed ourselves to explore the fantasies in our own mind, our own imagination, some of us might then want to be able to share that with our partner or partners. So I want to talk about how to do that because this conversation is really, really scary.

Before we jump into all of that, I just wanted to give you guys a little bit of a life update. I, what's new in my life? I have only got two modules left of my sexology training, which is crazy. I can't believe how quickly it has gone. But oh my God, I've learned so much on this journey. Like it was such a sliding doors moment to do this course

And it seemed like such a crazy idea. It still does to do a course in America where I'm up from 2am doing classes from 2am to 8am.

And especially because there were other options. Like I could have done a sexology course in my own country or one that was like on demand, but something about Somatica just really resonated with me. I really love the-

practical hands-on approach to the training that they do. This sounds like I'm just doing a big ad for Somatica, which I'm not meaning to, but I guess I just want to share why I really believe in their method.

because it has had such an impact on me. Like my personal life and my sex life has improved so much since learning this methodology and my relationship with my body, that's a big one. Like I didn't even know what semantics was for most of my life. And that's because...

I've spent my entire life being in my own head and intellectualizing everything and being really shut off from my body like so many of us are.

So I've been on this long personal journey of actually...

re-establishing a relationship with my body and being able to feel and interpret my body's signals and actually tap into the wisdom that's there.

There is so much intelligence in our intuition, in our gut feelings. Like often our body knows things are good or things are bad before our head can try and justify it or explain it. So just being able to tap into this, this part of my intelligence has been incredible. Especially when exploring kink where...

There's so much vulnerability going on, but it isn't just about, um, you know, keeping your, keeping to your boundaries. It's also about being able to follow what feels good. Because if you're disconnected from your body, you don't know what feels good, right?

So I've learned so much about.

not only understanding sex and kink in a an intellectual way or a psychological way, which is always very fascinating, but then actually being able to apply it to my body and how I feel physically in those situations when I'm exploring scenes, when I'm vetting partners, when I'm having

super scary conversations like the one we're about to talk to today.

being able to be in touch with my body and use it as an ally

has really improved my life. Like I cannot overstate that.

So yeah, I'm pretty excited to be almost finished with this course, because there's so many more things that I want to explore after it. But I think it's been such a beautiful foundation to start my coaching practice with and to approach coaching and intimacy with.

Anyway, that was a little bit of a side rant.

Let's talk about today's episode and what we're going to be covering.

So my idea for this episode came about the other day. Well, it was a couple of weeks ago now, actually. I had just recorded the episode on cock worship where I shared my cock worship fantasy, which was super fun. You should definitely check that one out if you haven't already.

and after recording that I went over to FetLife and I did a writing where I went into even more detail about that fantasy than I did on the podcast. That's the beauty of Fet. You don't have to hold back. You can give all the explicit details. And after writing that, I think I even finished the writing by saying, my God, I want to role play this now. Cause I was.

I was pretty turned on as we get when we are really play with our fantasies and indulge in them. So I was feeling pretty horny and I let myself, like I let my mind start to wonder and I was like, what if we, what if we did role play this? Like me and my partner slayed. And I was thinking about, um, I've been really enjoying exploring role play lately. So I was like, we could wear.

costumes, like what costumes could we wear? And I imagined like, like a priest outfit and a nun outfit. So I Googled that and then turns out my, my local store, Spotlight had a, had priest and nun outfits in, in stock and they were totally cheap and in, and up the road.

So.

By this point, all I wanted to do was just grab Slade, jump in the car, grab the costumes and have a super spontaneous kinky role play together. all of that sounded really great in my head. But what happened was I ran out of my office. Slade was home. He was watching TV in the living room and...

I had all this energy, like explosive energy inside me. just wanted to tell him all about what I'd just been discussing on the podcast and how excited I was to try this role play and like, let's go and get costumes right now. And I came out and I went to say it. And then it was just like, it felt like someone had just like pulled the carpet out from under me. I completely lost my words and Slade laughed at me because he's like,

could see this expression on my face that obviously I had something to say, but I just completely chickened out. And it was just in that moment,

It felt like I just snapped back to reality where I had been in fantasy land where everything is super fun and sexy. And then suddenly I was like, Oh, I'm in the real world and I have to explain to my partner that I want to do this super kinky fucked up thing that maybe he might want to do. And what if he judges me and what if, how would that feel? Oh my God, I'm going to be so embarrassed. How do I even ask for this? This is so, it's such a weird thing to ask for. What is wrong with me? You know, all of those shame thoughts just.

started spiralling my head and I'm like, my God, this is so hard to have this conversation.

Anyway, I did eventually get the words out, which I'll tell you more about as we go through this episode.

But it just made me realize if this is, like having this conversation is this hard for me, how are you guys doing with it? You know?

Like surely everyone struggles with telling our partners what we're really into and what we really want. Telling them about our fantasies, whether we want to act them out or whether we just want to share them. It's really vulnerable to reveal this part of ourselves. Right?

So I thought it would be really good to do an episode where we actually address some of that shame, where it comes from, and I also give you some practical...

actionable advice on how to approach this conversation.

so if you do want to share some of your sexy fantasies with your partner, you'll at least be a little bit more equipped.

and hopefully won't go into full shame overload like I did.

Or more importantly, want you to be able to have this conversation and have it go well. Because I know.

how vulnerable it is.

to talk about this stuff.

So that's what we're going to chat about today. But I thought, let's start with, why even have this conversation? Why would we do this to ourselves?

Well, first of all, you don't have to. Let's just get really clear on that. Your fantasies are yours and you do not have to share them with anybody else if you don't want to. You are entitled to privacy around what turns you on.

end, if you choose, you can quietly indulge in them while you're having sex or while you're having some solo play. And you don't have to share that with anyone. It can just be going on in your own mind. And that is completely fine. In fact, that is super hot.

So first of all, you do not have to share this stuff if you do not want to. Zero pressure.

However,

You may feel like you want to share this or parts of this side of you with your partner, like I wanted to with Slade. And that might be because sharing this stuff is super fun and sexy

And we can get really turned on by just talking about our fantasies. We don't even have to act them out. Nothing has to happen, but just telling each other like, I've got this sexy mailman fantasy. I don't know where that came from. Does anyone have a sexy mailman fantasy? but whatever it is you're into, just, just sharing that with your partner can be really fun and sexy and really intimate. Because as I said, it is a vulnerable thing to share.

And when we share vulnerable parts of ourselves and those parts are accepted or celebrated, then we feel safe and accepted. And that creates beautiful intimacy and trust in the relationship. So that is a great reason to want to share them if you do. The other reason, which is probably the most obvious one is if you actually want to play and...

role play some of these fantasies and act them out, then of course you will need to communicate that and see how your partner feels about that. That can be a big risk because we don't know if they'll be into it or not.

But if they are, there is potential there for having some really hot, fun, exciting sex, right?

So lots of reasons to take the risk and have this conversation if we want to.

Next I want to talk about, just briefly, why it is so hard.

So I've said that it's very vulnerable, it's very personal. And we talked about in the last episode, a lot of the factors that might make us feel ashamed of our fantasies, that can make it really hard to share.

If we don't accept them ourselves, it's going to be really tricky to.

help our partners accept them.

So I really encourage you to do that in a work first before you involve anyone else.

Because unfortunately we don't have control over how other people will react. And if our partner does react in a not so accepting way, that can do a lot of harm.

to us. It can take us ten steps backwards in our acceptance journey.

So maybe just make sure that you're ready in yourself to share this stuff and don't rush yourself into it. Okay.

So there's vulnerability there. There's lots of shame mines, land mines around that we can step on. But why is it so hard to share this specifically with our partners? Because in my case, I had just shared about my Cockworship fantasy on a podcast, a public podcast, and I'd just written about it on FetLive.

Yet it was the moment when I tried to share it with Slade that I got into that shame overload.

Any ideas why sharing our fantasies with our partners can be really hard?

Well, I think it comes from a fear of judgment. Human beings are wired for needing belonging and connection. And when that connection is threatened, we get really, really freaked out. Understandably, because we generally can't or don't survive very well on our own. We are tribal animals, right?

Now, of course, me talking about my fantasy on a podcast or on FetLife, I am opening myself up to being judged by whoever might be listening or reading. And yes, that can be scary at times. But what made it way more scary when I shared it with Slade was what he thinks of me really matters to me. I love and respect him and-

I want him to think highly of me, so any time I do something that could threaten that connection.

or that I feel like he could judge me about, I'm going to get really scared. Not that I think Slade is the least judgmental person I know.

So it's nothing about him personally. It's just.

when we care about someone.

especially if we live with them.

If they misunderstand us or judge us in some way that potentially could have a serious effect on us, on our self-esteem, on our day-to-day living situation.

So of course we want to or approach these conversations really carefully because we understand how important it is that.

We don't do any damage to that relationship. Does that make sense? I feel like I'm meandering a little bit, but hopefully my point is coming across. What I'm trying to say is that fear of judgment from the people that we love the most is so powerful. And of course it is. It makes sense.

So I just want to normalize that. If you are feeling scared of having this conversation, it doesn't mean that you have a bad relationship or that you're not good at communicating. It just means that you're a human being. And this is just one of those things that is really tough for most of us to talk about.

Okay.

So what are some ways that we can approach this conversation?

and really minimize that risk of being judged.

Now, unfortunately, as I said, there's, there's no way we can control how another person is going to respond to us, but there are things we can do to make that positive response more likely to happen. So that's what I'm going to talk about next. I've got some easy, helpful steps that are going to make this conversation, hopefully a whole lot easier. So number one, and this might sound.

Really simple, but it's a powerful one.

And that is to pick the right time. You know, don't approach this conversation when your partner is stressed or busy or just in a crappy mood. You want to pick a time where you've got privacy, you've got time to talk it out. so you're not rushed and hopefully that you're both in a mood where you're feeling pretty good.

One of the best ways that we can ensure that it is a good time is we can ask. Just ask our partner, Hey, do reckon we could maybe have a bit of a sexy chat at some point?

don't know about you, but if my partner asks me if I'm up for having a sexy chat at some point, I'm going to be instantly really curious and-

keen to hear what they have to say, right? Like, ooh, what are you planning?

This simple strategy or tweak or tip is really effective. And the reason why it's effective is because it gives our partner agency in the conversation.

Agency means that we feel like we have control over a situation, that we have a say in what's happening to us and what doesn't happen to us.

That's agency. So by simply asking our partner saying, hey, I want to have a sexy chat. Would you be up for that? And when would be a good time?

You're giving them agency over that conversation, which is a beautiful place to start. They feel like they're being respected and they, they have a say in how this conversation unfolds. Okay.

Tip number two is to start small. So you might have some crazy, kinky, elaborate fantasies going on in your imagination. And if you do, that is super sexy and lots of fun. And of course there will be room to play with that later. But you don't have to start there.

If it's easier, you can just share a little piece of your fantasy.

Of course, if you feel safe to do so, you can share the whole thing. but maybe if this is the first time you've discussed it with your partner or shared a fantasy with anyone, maybe you want, you might want to start a bit smaller. So for example, maybe you've got this fantasy where you are on some remote Island somewhere and you're taken prisoner by a tribe of

beautiful Amazonian women and they're going to do this ritual with you where they cover your body in oil and they sacrifice you to the gods and then they all feast on your flesh. That is a super sexy and very elaborate fantasy.

But it might be a lot to try and explain to someone for the first, if it's the first time they're hearing about it. I've got a fantasy about being eaten alive, that might be.

hard to understand, you're to have to do a lot of explaining to hopefully get them to get where you're coming from or why you're into that. So it might be easier to start with something like...

I don't know, if you've got a fantasy about being eaten alive, maybe you'd be into having your partner drizzle chocolate sauce on your body and having them lick it off you. That sounds really fun. So maybe that enables you to get a little piece of your fantasy met and it feels a little easier to share.

Make sense?

Okay, so you don't have to share everything at once. Hopefully this will be the first of many conversations about sex and desire. And you can up the ante each time if you want to, as you feel more safe to do so.

You don't have to get it all out there in that first conversation.

My next tip for telling your partner what you're really into is focusing on the feeling rather than just the actions. And this is a way to help your partner understand.

So for example, let's imagine you have a threesome fantasy. Like I'm pretty sure, I don't know, was something like 70 % of the population does. So it's, it's pretty, pretty likely that you might have a threesome fantasy, very, very common fantasy. But also one that can be really scary to share with a partner. If you just tell your partner, Hey, I have a threesome fantasy, especially if it's with,

Like if you're...

If you're a woman and you want to invite another guy into the bedroom, or if you're a guy and you want to invite another girl into the bedroom, obviously talking about heterosexual relationships here, but that can feel really threatening for your partner. If all they hear is you want a threesome, they're just going to think, my God, I'm not enough for you. You want to fuck someone else. And that invites all sorts of defensiveness.

and insecurity and that conversation is probably not going to go super well. Okay. But if you change it a little bit and explain to them the feeling you want to get out of that threesome.

So you could say, I have this fantasy where I just want to feel like the center of attention. I want to feel super desirable and wanted. And sometimes I imagine that

I have multiple partners and they're all just wanting me and making me feel beautiful or sexy.

See how that's starting to paint a picture that your partner can relate to a little bit more. Most of us can relate to the idea of wanting to feel special or desired.

might say something like, I've got this fantasy where I just want to feel overwhelmed with sensation. Like all I can feel is people grabbing my body and, I don't know, from my perspective, I would say like having...

cocks penetrating me from different angles all at once, so I'm just overwhelmed with that feeling.

By saying this, I'm helping my partner to understand what I want to get out of that threesome fantasy. What is attracting me to that fantasy?

because a lot of the time, because fantasies are so taboo.

We don't want to trigger our partners into that, into just going, my God, you're fucked up, you want to threesome. Or you're fucked up, you want to wear lingerie.

Or... That's so fucked up that you want me to rape you.

So when we explain the feelings that we want to get out of the fantasy, we're helping our partner explain why we personally want to experience this rather than them getting caught up in the taboo nature of whatever it is. Does that make sense? It makes it more relatable.

So I'll give you another example. Say I had a fantasy that I just want to cry my eyes out while I get fucked. And if that's all I say, that might be a lot. My partner might be like, wow, what, why would you want to do that? What's wrong with you? You might need to see a therapist.

But if I instead explain the why, the feelings that I want to get out of that fantasy, suddenly it becomes a lot easier for them to get it. Okay? So I could say something like, hey, I really want to experience crying during sex. I know that sounds weird, but I want to know how it feels to just be able to fully let go of all my emotions and still feel desired.

still feel you fucking me and wanting me even when I'm upset, even when I'm letting go of that mask that I'm carrying around all day.

Suddenly, that fantasy makes sense. It's not so scary, it's not so fucked up. It's like, I can see that.

So focus on the feelings rather than just describing the actions.

This next tip is probably the most important one out of all of these. So listen up. When you're approaching this conversation with your partner, when you're telling them what you're really into, you're telling them about your fantasies. I want you to frame it in a way.

that isn't setting up any expectations. Okay? So tell them, hey, I've got this fantasy. I really want to share it with you. There's no obligation for you to fulfill this for me.

There's no pressure at all. I just want to tell you about it.

Okay. So remember we talked about giving our partners agency. well, the number one reason why partners freak out when their partner shares a fantasy with them is because they feel obligated that they're going to have to do that. They're to have to fulfill that for them. And this is the first time they're hearing of it. They don't know if they want to, they, they don't know how they feel about it yet.

And all of a sudden you're putting pressure on me to have a threesome or peg you or

have sex in the car while people watch like, I don't know if I'm ready for that What the fuck? You're just dumping this on me. Like, of course people are going to get defensive if they feel cornered or pressured into doing something they're not sure if they want to do yet.

So we want to avoid that completely and make it really clear when we have this conversation, hey, this is just a conversation. I just want to share this with you.

That alone is just so disarming. makes you feel like, imagine if someone said that to you. It's like, okay. All right, hit me. I'm ready to hear what you've got because I feel like all the pressure's off now.

Now I know this can be difficult if deep down you really, really want them to fulfill this fantasy for you and you really want to have this experience.

but that is a different conversation.

Step one is to just let them know what you're into and see how they react to that.

If they're super curious and keen to explore it with you, then great. Then you can have a conversation about boundaries and desires and.

talking about what you want to happen in a scene, all of that stuff comes later.

But this conversation that we're talking about today is just about communicating what you're into, what you, what you fantasize about

and sharing that with your partner.

The thing about sex is we can only feel into our body's pleasure and desire and our turn-ons if we are in a place of agency where we feel like we have a say in what's happening to us. But if we're being pressured into something that we're not really sure we're ready for, or that we even want to do, we're not going to be able to enjoy ourselves.

and whatever it is you want to do with your partner, I'm sure you really want them to enjoy it too. So you've got to give them time and give them agency to make that decision for themselves without pressure.

This is so important.

And if you're on the receiving end of this and you're with a partner who's really maybe keen to explore some stuff with you. And you really want to help them fulfill that and you're curious about it. That's great, but it's okay for you to take it at your own pace. To slow down. Everyone feels like they're in such a rush to achieve the fantasy, but half the fun is getting there. Is just trying.

taking a little new step each time and talking about, my God, how did that feel? Was that fun? Yeah, that was really fun. I can't wait for next time. You know, you can savor this journey together. Don't be in such a rush. When we take it slow, we're able to A, enjoy ourselves and B, figure out where our boundaries are as well so that we can...

play in a space where we feel like we're being respected.

where we can feel comfortable and relax and actually enjoy ourselves and get turned on and feel pleasure, have a bunch of orgasms.

All of that stuff comes from being in a place of agency, not being rushed or pressured. All right.

Lastly, I've got a little bonus tip for those of you who can take all of this in and still are not able to get the words out. My advice to you is write it down. Write down your fantasy and share that with your partner.

You can either read it to them yourself or you can get them to read it.

That way you can actually focus on what you're wanting to say and you can be as honest as possible and say it in the way you want to say it. Cause you've got time to think about it when you're writing it down and you're not having to do all of that in the moment when you're feeling really embarrassed and having that shame overload of like, my God, what are they thinking right now?

So this is actually what I did with Slade when I told him about the the Cockworship fantasy. Because I had just written a Fetlife writing and I decided that I would read that to him. I asked him, Hey, are you in a headspace where I can read this to you? And he was like, fuck yeah. This sounds super hot. Fire away. And then I read him my Fetlife writing.

And that started the conversation. Obviously you're going to talk about it more from there, but at least that way I was able to share with him Exactly what I wanted to say.

and I had those words in front of me.

Man, I can't believe how I've been talking about this for this long. It seems like such a simple concept, but there's, there's a lot here. so hopefully this has been useful for you so far. The last thing I want to share with you guys today is the other side of the equation. So, so far we've been talking about how you can approach this conversation. How you can share your fantasies with your partner and hopefully get a supportive response rather than a.

a defensive or fearful response. Next, I want to talk about

putting the shoe on the other foot. So you're the one who's hearing your partner's fantasies.

Now I'm assuming that you are in a supportive relationship and you really want to hear what your partner is into. That that's, that you're curious about that and excited about that. Right. So you want to respond to them in a way that feels really encouraging and feels really safe and accepting, right? It's that acceptance that we're wanting to put across here. Cause they're going to be fearing your judgment. Right. Like we talked about at the start.

They're terrified of how you're going to respond to them. So the best thing you can do for your partner is to show them that it's safe, that you're not judging them. And this can be as simple as making, you know, some sexy approving sounds like, hmm, ooh, right? Or just having a cheeky smile on your face that's saying, yes, tell me more.

And if you are genuinely into what they're sharing, tell them that. Let them know, that is hot. I'm so into that. Right?

So when I shared about my, my Cockworship fantasy with Slade, he was making all those sexy approving noises, like, and I think what the biggest compliment I get is when he has to.

adjust himself in his pants a little bit. That's like, I got your, your cock moving. Your cocks responding to what I'm saying. Haha. Like that's like the ultimate, form of acceptance, right? It's like, this is turning you on as well, huh? Yeah. That's really fun. There is nothing that.

that can feel better than that. When you're being really vulnerable about this, just getting that, it's okay. They're into it too. Right?

Now, of course, this is much easier to do if you are genuinely into the same kind of thing and that fantasy is really hot for you as well. But what happens if your partner shares something with you that you're just not into? This can be a lot trickier. Okay. And we want to be careful in the way we respond because we don't, hopefully we don't want to shame them or judge them for being open and vulnerable with us, right?

But we also want to be really clear about where our boundaries are. We don't want to feel pressured into doing anything that we don't want to do.

So in this case, my advice is to still acknowledge that this is sexy. It mightn't be your thing, but it's their thing. And that is sexy. The fact that it works for them and it turns them on. That's hot, right? Regardless of how you feel about it.

So I want you to first celebrate that and thank them for being open with you.

You can say something like, wow, thank you for sharing that with me. That is really hot.

Because it is hot, I'm not lying. But the next thing I want to say is something like...

I don't know if that's my thing, but I love that you're so into it and that you're sharing this with me.

Okay, so we're celebrating their desire, but we're also being really clear that, hey, I don't know if this is my thing, but I really appreciate you being open with me.

Now, hearing that you're not into it is likely going to be a bit disappointing for your partner. And that's okay. We can all survive a bit of disappointment. We're all big boys and girls here. Okay.

It is way more important that you're honest and upfront about your feelings.

even if that's really hard in the short term, but that is way better than committing to doing something, especially when it comes to sex, doing something that you don't want to do or that you will not enjoy.

because that isn't sexy for anyone. Okay?

Now there is like a happy middle ground here too. Maybe your partner's telling you a fantasy that you're curious about. an example of this might be, say your partner has submissive fantasies and they want you to be, play the dom role or the dom-a role. Maybe you've never been a dom before and that sounds like a lot, but you're curious to give it a go.

So just be really upfront about that. Say, hey, that sounds really sexy. I've never done anything like that before and I don't know how it would feel, but I would be willing to explore it with you.

boundaries.

and also making sure that our partner knows that we aren't judging them. Because that's what really matters here. We can handle disappointment, not so much judgment.

All right. I think I will leave this episode there. Hopefully you found some of these tips helpful. Hopefully you're feeling a little bit more equipped and empowered to have this conversation if you want to. Again, there is absolutely no pressure to share your fantasies if you don't want to. just to summarize, we'll go through the tips again.

first one was pick a good time and ask your partner for consent to have that conversation. This is giving them agency. Start small. You don't have to share the whole fantasy.

Focus on the feelings more than the actions. So actually explaining how that fantasy makes you feel, helping your partner understand in that way.

Framing it as a share, not an obligation. So making sure your partner doesn't feel pressured to participate and that you're just at this stage, all you're wanting is to share the fantasy with them. And we had our little bonus tip of writing it down if words are hard.

Okay.

And I'll just finish up by saying this stuff is really hard. Okay?

As I said in the beginning, I still struggle with this so much and I have a lot of practice in talking about sex.

So just be gentle with yourself and your partner. Be kind. You're probably not going to get this perfect. It might be bumpy.

But what matters is at the end of the day, you're trying to be more vulnerable.

And that is.

so  to intimacy.

Alright, I think I will leave it there. Thank you so much once again for listening.

Until next time friends, play safe, have fun, and stay curious.