Turns Out I'm Into It!
Turns Out I’m Into It is your backstage pass to the world of kink—where curiosity is queen, shame is stripped away, and nothing is off-limits. Hosted by somatic sexologist Harley Rabbit, this podcast delves into the psychology of desire, exploring how BDSM, power dynamics, and play can unlock self-discovery, intimacy, and even healing.
From abduction fantasies to shibari, age play to non-monogamy, Harley serves up candid personal stories and juicy interviews with kink experts from around the globe. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster, a wide-eyed newbie, or just here for the naughty stories, this show will indulge your imagination, tickle your curiosity, and maybe—just maybe—have you whispering, turns out, I’m into it too!
Turns Out I'm Into It!
#98: Why do we Celebrate Risk Everywhere Except in Sex?
In last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices.
Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is more than just the right to say no. It’s also the right to say yes to risks that matter to you.
Here’s what I cover in this episode:
- Why agency isn’t just about safety, but also about the right to risk.
- How society celebrates risk in sports and travel, but shames it in sex.
- My personal story of doing a rope-in-water scene despite warnings.
- What I learned from Cruciator about scenes without safe words.
- Why safe words are tools, not substitutes for attunement and connection.
I’d love for you to reflect: What does agency mean to you? Where’s your line between whats ok and not ok in kink? And do you think we sometimes rely too much on safe words?
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Further Listening
- #94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire
- #91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (episode about attunement)
- #33: Tied up in a Pool - Not What I Expected!
- #32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator
xx Harley 🐰
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